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Sometimes you find yourself between a rock and a hard place.  You have to say NO.  But if you’ve been abused that word is a difficult one.  Learn how to say No and read on!

If you’re anything like me the word no feels foreign on your tongue.  It takes all your energy to be able to say that word and usually it comes out harshly because it’s so hard to say.  Or you feel exhausted since you’ve practiced how to say it over and over.  Stressing about it.  Well I’ve learned a way to help you.

If you “free-write” for 20 minutes about it all your arguments will come to you.  Free-writing is when you write for an allotted time and write without any sensor.  You write freely.  Anything that comes to mind.  If it’s your first time do it for ten minutes.  As you go along it will get easier and easier.  And I do mean set a timer!  It will force you to keep on writing and you’ll be amazed at what you discover.  Write about a particular person and saying no to that person.  I know you have at least one person that you need to say no to.  Then after 20 minutes your arguments will all be written down and it will be easier to say no and you’ll have the arguments to support you.

Then comes the action of actually say no.  So choose the place and time wisely.  And then let it rip!  Just come out and say it will all of your arguments already in your mind.  Then don’t spoil it by apologizing.  You have a right to say no.  You are strong.  You are a survivor!

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