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Miriam took a chance and talked to a friend … she broke the silence.  But before she asked herself  some questions.  Slowly I heal.

When you are weighed down by your troubles it helps to talk to someone about them.  But before you do there are some questions that you could be asking yourself.  They are:

  • “I want to talk about….
  • I don’t want to talk about …
  • I expect …
  • I’m going to do it (on what date) …
  • I’m going to talk to them where?
  • I’m going to set up ahead of time by …
  • The response I’d like is …
  • I’m going to ask for …
  • It’s ok for them to tell…
  • It’s not ok for them to tell…”

(page 248-250; The Courage to Heal; Laura Davis; 1990; New York).

So I prepared myself with these questions and was ready to talk to my friend.  I chose a coffee shop hoping that I wouldn’t cry.  It worked!  She thanked me for my trust and it was a very positive experience.  Now another person knows which is good.

Slowly I heal…